Henley Update Part 2
The day after we got home from Boston I called up to school to talk with the school counselor. I expressed my concerns about all of the things we were seeing with Henley and asked what we could do. By the time I got up to school 3 hours later they had already had a meeting with her teacher, principal, counselor & speech diagnostics person. They had information for me and a plan to move forward. Let me just stop there and say that this school our kids go has almost 1,000 elementary students in this building (most schools have 4-500). Let that sink in. These people are so busy and within 3 HOURS of me calling up there, they were already on it! We are BEYOND thankful for the school our children are in. When I walked into the office, most of them already knew what had happened in Boston and knew how defeated I felt. The principal said to me “You know we will help you however we can.” What a blessing to feel this supported in our community.
I felt like the day we arrived back home began a whole new chapter for me. I now had lots more information, lots more people expressing concern about Henley and I felt like I wasn’t crazy or over analyzing her all by myself. We started down a path of investigating her in every way that we could. We tested did a preliminary speech eval in the school. The Speech Therapist called me and told me that she noticed Henley seemed to have developed a bi-lateral lisp since kindergarten. When I asked her if this was something that commonly developed later in childhood she responded with “Not generally. It’s most common when a person has had a stroke, develops Parkinson’s or has some other neurological complication.” Super…that answers that.
I called and made an appointment with our pediatrician to talk with her about all of the new concerns. We met that week and I laid everything out for her that we were seeing. She helped us get a plan of action together to start checking things off the list.
First up: Speech. We decided rather than waiting on the school to do a full speech eval, we would have one of my best friends who owns her own speech clinic in the area do a full speech evaluation on her since she would be totally comfortable with her and because she also knew Henley’s entire history since she has been around since the beginning. After the test she scored the results and sat with me on the floor and explained it all. She said “I generally get concerned and recommend speech therapy if a child scores as low as a 10 on this test. Henley is at a -1.” So there’s that. I guess we add speech therapy to the list of things we need to do now.
Then we tested her for OT (Occupational Therapy). During this testing, they are looking for complications with fine motor skills and gross motor skills. That seemed to highlight even more issues we had not noticed before. Both fine motor and gross motor were of great concern. This day just keeps getting better. Add OT to the list too.
Next up was the ENT. We went there to see if maybe Henley’s tonsils were abnormally large and that was causing the recent problems with eating and swallowing. Nope. Normal size. We also addressed the headaches with her doctor and took in an MRI image of her sinuses to discuss. Apparently children don’t really even develop sinus cavities in their forehead until later in childhood. So that’s good to know. The headaches are not caused by her sinuses….because she has none.
Next up: Allergy testing. We did this to make sure Henley’s headaches were not being caused by something in the air that she was just allergic to. Nope. Not she’s not allergic to anything.
The ophthalmologist was next. Maybe the newly developed reading problems and headaches were caused by poor vision? Nope. That is not our problem either. She has incredible vision.
Frustrated about still having some unanswered questions I started writing emails. I emailed the head of the research team for Henley’s genetic disorder and also a Neurologist at CHOP (Children’s Hospital in Philadelphia) that I had email addresses for. I listed out everything we were seeing and asked if these things were related to the genetic disorder or if these seemed more neurological. The response I got from both of those people was that yes, there could be some overlapping symptoms, but these things generally were not coming on later in life, rather had always been present. They both directed us back to our neurosurgeon for consultation.
I posted all of my questions in our Facebook page for the 16p families. I got an overwhelming response that matched the two doctors replies. “Yes, we do see lots of those things, but not generally acutely onset. I would probably see a neurosurgeon, it sounds like what you are describing is neurological.” one other mother said.
I texted all of my Chiari mom friends and got their thoughts and opinions too. One afternoon I got a call from one of the other moms. We talked for a while and she told me about the new doctor they went to see in New York and how amazing he was. Another one of our mutual friends was traveling there to see him also. I got the doctors information and called his office. Adam and I talked about it and decided to get a second opinion from him. I started gathering information to send to him before we could schedule a phone consultation.
That brings me to today…
This morning I got up, got ready and was heading out to BSF when my phone rang. It was the school nurse. “Henley is in my office and crying because her back is hurting. That’s a new one. Right?” “I’ll come up there and check it out. I’m already in my car.” I went in and could tell she was kind of a mess. I knew just by looking at her that her back was out of alignment because her shoulders were slanted to one side and she was standing funny. I called our amazing chiropractor and got an appointment. We went home to wait. During the time before her appointment I got a random message from my other friend who sees the doctor in New York. Her son actually just had surgery for his Chiari about 10 days ago. They are still there and she messaged me out of the blue. She said that she had been thinking about me and Henley and wanted to just pass along some info about this surgeon who had done her son’s surgery. I texted her back a picture of my stack of papers and MRI images I was getting ready to send him for a second opinion and asked her if she could call me. She did and we talked for an hour. During that conversation I texted Adam the message she had sent me before our call and he responded. “What do we need to do to get an appointment with him?”. I responded“I think we just need to fly there.”
After our call we drove to the chiropractors office. On my drive I called the doctors office in New York and told them we had changed our minds and wanted to come there to meet with him rather than just talking on the phone. We scheduled an appointment for December 8th and that was that.
We got to Dr. Haggerton’s office and he adjusted Henley and made her back feel better instantly. He said to me “its kind of unusual for a child her age to have this type of back problem.” I reminded him of the Chiari and he said “Oh yes! Well, all of this is related to the cerebellum so that makes sense.” I asked him about some of the other things we were noticing just to get his opinion on everything from a physiology perspective. He said to me something I have never heard before and its exactly what I needed to hear. He said “Well, this only gets worse as she grows.” He further explained that when we grow our brain stays where it is and our spine stretches out and pulls on the brain. (not his words…he was much more eloquent.) With Chiari your brain is basically “falling out of your skull” already and so it just keeps getting pulled further and further down the spinal column. I asked him that if she were his child, what would he be doing every single day for her. He gave me some great suggestions to feed her brain and give it everything it needs to function properly, but more importantly he said exactly what I needed to hear. He pressed his finger on my shoulder and said “If there is pressure here in your shoulder and its causing all kinds of pain and problems and you keep growing and your arm stretches out and pulls even more on that stressor but you never release the pressure from here (where his finger was pressing), then you just keep having the same problems. You have to fix the source of the problem first and then you can worry about regenerating all the functions.”
Then he looked at me and said “I feel like the Lord wants you to know that you have done everything you can here and you are doing a great job.” “Go see that doctor in New York.”
I feel like I needed to hear everyone that I truly respect in the medical & holistic field tell me that I need to go in a direction. The SAME direction. I feel like the Lord has been so gracious in giving us absolute clarity in the way that we needed to receive it before moving forward. So here we go.
